Get in the habit of reducing inner tension and increasing feelings of centeredness and calm by taking a “healing interval” for a few minutes several times each day using any of the above mentioned techniques or the following breathing exercises. They are totally safe, easy, without side effects, and are extremely health-enhancing natural tranquilizers, especially if you do them often. They disengage conscious attention away from thought and outside stimulation and relax your nervous system.
The following breathwork exercises are simple to do and can be done any time and place. For example, while traveling, waiting in line, resting, before rising in the morning and going to bed at night, in the bath, on the toilet, or whenever you feel stressed or triggered.
Sit up straight but comfortably, with your eyes closed, internally keeping your gaze between your eyes, or open and focused on a nonmoving distant object or place like where the floor meets the wall. While breathing be mindful, and just observe and release any muscle tension working your way slowly from head to toe. This is meditation, combined with the benefits of breathwork.
Breath Awareness
Start with being more conscious about your breath, and simply focusing all of your attention on your breathing. Get curious about all the details of your sensations as you inhale and exhale, without trying to change anything. Notice what you are currently seeing, hearing, smelling, feeling, tasting. Just watch without judgment. This brings you to the present and is deliciously relaxing.
Deep Abdominal Breathing
Exhale slowly with an audible sigh, releasing all muscle tension, especially in your jaw and breathing diaphragm muscle.
Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of 4. Imagine a pump expanding your abdomen, and lower back, down to your pelvic floor, causing you to inhale. Allow ribs to expand with air, then inhale air into your upper chest towards your collarbone and shoulders.
Exhale slowly through your mouth for a count of 4. Release effortlessly, in the same order you inhaled, returning to baseline, your abdomen, ribs, then upper chest. With each exhalation, try to let go and relax even more.
Repeat this cycle a total of 8 times or at least a few minutes. You may need to play with counts, using a count of 3 or maybe even 5 or 6. But keep the counts of inhale the same as the counts of exhale.
Then extend, or double the exhale. For example, if you are inhaling to a count or 3, exhale to a count of 6, or if you are inhaling to a count of 4, exhale to a count of 6. And repeat this cycle for several minutes.
Triangle Breathing
Inhale for a count of 3 or 4, exhale to the same count of 3 or 4, then pause for the same count of 3 or 4, while consciously and deeply relaxing your diaphragm muscle of respiration, as well as all other muscles. Repeat for several cycles or a few minutes.
Box Breathing
Another great breathing technique that disengages your conscious attention from thought and relaxes the nervous system, and can be done any time, is box breathing. With this exercise, you add a timed pause between each inhalation and exhalation.
Set a timer for 5-10 minutes.
Inhale deeply into your belly as above for a count of 3.
Hold without tension for a count of 6.
Exhale to a count of 6 while consciously relaxing more and more.
Hold again without tension for a count of 3.
Repeat until your timer chimes. You may love this so much you will want to do it longer.
Breathing In Varied Ratios
Play with the ratios and counts of inhalation, exhalation and the pausing in between them. For example, exhale slowly through your mouth with an audible sigh. Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of 4, hold for a count of 7, then exhale through your mouth for a count of 8. Repeat for a total of 8 cycles.
Forced Exhalation Breathing
One more breathing exercise to try is forced exhalation:
After a normal breath, try squeezing as much air out as possible using your intercostal muscles.
Next, allow the breath to come in naturally and deeply, but automatically.
Repeat the cycle for several minutes or as long as you like.
See what feels best for you in each situation. Make these sorts of deep breathing and breath awareness practices, meditation and authentic yoga a regular part of your daily routine, even for 20-30 minutes.
Practice abdominal breathing as much as possible so it becomes habitual. This is the ideal form of breathing, as opposed to rapid shallow breathing. Do this by imagining a pump expanding your abdomen and lower back, which causes you to inhale. The pump then releases effortlessly, which causes you to exhale. Then there is a natural pause until you need to inhale again.
Don’t hesitate to schedule a session with me if you need more guidance with mastering breathwork and experiencing its transformative power.
Conscious Relaxation
Notice habits of increased muscle tension, especially around your upper back, shoulders, neck, forehead and jaw, and make an effort to release these tightened muscles while doing slow deep abdominal breathing. Ask someone to massage these areas or treat yourself to regular massage therapy.
It would be very beneficial to you if you could learn how to relax the muscles that are tensing up. It is an essential skill for labor and can be used in any stressful situation. Set aside a 10-15 minute time slot, like during one or two of your “healing intervals,” to focus on releasing all of your muscles:
Get into a comfortable position.
Breathe slowly and deeply while thinking about relaxing each muscle from your head down to your toes.
Visualize feeling heavy and limp like a rag doll, or like your napping dog or cat.
Life is stressful and always has been, and eliminating all outside stress is not an option. But, you can learn to activate your own relaxation response and quiet your nervous system not only with breath work and relaxation techniques, but also by making a conscious effort to be aware of anxiety provoking, tension causing thought patterns that are not serving you. And to stop them or shift your attention to something more positive and ultimately change your mental state.
You have the capability to change your attitude and reaction to your life experiences to more health enhancing responses. For example, you can surrender to and totally accept unpleasant events over which you have no power, and/or you can view them as a wake-up call, an opportunity for personal growth, development and redirection. You can try to focus as much of your attention as possible on the present moment, literally without letting your thoughts wander into the past or imagined future.
For more information about this and other great ways to improve your physical and emotional well-being, read Natural Health, Natural Medicine by Dr. Andrew Weil, Practicing the Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle, Loving What Is by Byron Katie, and Prescriptions for Living by Dr. Bernie Siegel.
Make a conscious effort to work on increasing your own feelings of forgiveness, appreciation, love, joy, optimism, and healing, while letting go of anger, resentment, envy, fear, sadness, and negativity. Do not be afraid to seek counseling if you need help with this. It is helpful to express your worries, resentments, anger, sadness and other troubling feelings with a sympathetic ear, but more effective to move these emotions through your body and release them through conscious connected breathing type of breathwork. It is also critical to develop skills of self-mastery and empowerment.
Additional Self Awareness and Care
Keep a written record of your headaches to increase your own awareness of situations in your life that proceed your headaches, and make needed changes if possible. Sometimes it’s as simple as:
Taking a daily nap or just lying down for a few minutes with your eyes closed in a quiet room.
Getting a mother’s helper for the afternoon or morning rush.
Making sure you don’t forget to eat breakfast or lunch.
Deleting foods with monosodium glutamate and other chemical additives in processed foods.
Getting some fresh air or moving away from cigarette smoke.
Saying “I’m sorry but I can’t help you this time” when you are overworked.
Having your eyes checked and getting new glasses.
Notice your posture when standing as well as when sitting. Make sure your back is straight and lifted using your stomach muscles, your pelvis is tilted forward and your shoulders are relaxed and down. Avoid high heels.
If your headaches are related to awkward posture and chronic muscle straining, you may benefit from osteopathy, acupuncture, and/or the Alexander or Rolfing deep massage technique, in addition to regular yoga practice.